Attachment Styles Transformed
The Abandonment Wound Healing Course
Author, Teacher, Grounded Spiritualist & Enrealment Activist
A Course For Women and Men
This engaging and easy-to-follow 6 week downloadable audio course will support you in your efforts to confront and transform unhealthy attachment styles and relationship issues so you can move forward in your life. With an additional 52 page e-book of written exercises and tools created by Soulshaping and Apologies to the Battered Child author Jeff Brown.
Pay what you can $89 – $169 sliding scale
depending on your economic circumstances
In this E-course You Will Discover How to…
Heal and Empower
Transform & Release
Tools & Meditations
This course is an invitation.An invitation to heal. An invitation to release. An invitation to express. An invitation to self-forgive. An invitation to trust. An invitation to self-empowerment. An invitation to wholeness. An invitation to meet your childhood material, and resolve it at the root.
This course is an opportunity.An opportunity to be free from the imprisoning and destructive impact of your unresolved abandonment wound. An opportunity to mend your inner child and re-parent yourself. An opportunity to live the self-assured and purposeful life you were born for. An opportunity to feel seen, heard, honored, and loved by you. An opportunity to stand in a sturdy and stable selfhood, and feel safe in the world. An opportunity to believe in yourself again. An opportunity to know you belong.
MEND THE DEBILITATING EFFECTS OF ABANDONMENT AND REJECTION
CONFRONT AND TRANSFORM UNHEALTHY ATTACHMENT STYLES AND RELATIONSHIP ISSUES
OWN YOUR RIGHTFUL ANGER AND RESENTMENT
RELEASE & RESOLVE PRIMAL PAIN, GRIEF, AND BETRAYAL
TOOLS & MEDITATIONS TO BECOME MORE SELF-EMPOWERED IN YOUR LIFE
UP-FRAME YOUR PAST EXPERIENCES AND RE-OPEN YOUR HEART.
We all have an abandonment wound. At some point in your life, whether it was in your most vulnerable stages of infancy and childhood, or later in life—you have experienced the searing pain of feeling left behind, unwanted, uncared for, rejected, or unloved. And it has stayed with you, impacting your relationships, your self-esteem, your sense of security, and your feeling of belonging in the world. You may not be able to directly identify the wound—but somehow you know it’s there, beneath the surface, acting upon your life in a multitude of ways.
Sometimes it manifests itself as issues within personal relationships, or as unhealthy attachments. It may show up as a fear of intimacy or of being vulnerable with others. At other times it shows its unhealed face as a painful trigger, a persistent personal issue, or a feeling of being unsafe in the world and in your own skin. It may take the form of not believing in yourself, and holding back from the dreams and goals that have meaning for you. It may rear its head in the form of toxic connections, self-destructive behaviors and addictions, paths that don’t serve your self-actualization. The abandonment wound may eat at you with a nagging sense of unworthiness, a hesitation to take chances. You may feel that you have been rejected by love, and life itself. There are so many hidden faces and facets to this core wound.
We know our abandonment wound is in there—but its vulnerable nature makes it difficult to meet head-on. You may have tried to work it through (internally, emotionally, and therapeutically), and still it persists. Or maybe you haven’t yet begun the work. You come close and retreat, or you can’t begin at all. You delay, deny, distract. Perhaps you feel afraid of its intensity, its honesty, the raw primal nature of this core wound. Perhaps you are overcome with self-doubt, resistance, perfectionism, and shame. Or you can’t quite figure out how to integrate this work into a busy daily life. It seems impossible to create the space to thoroughly work it through. At the same time, you are tired of being subconsciously influenced by it. You are tired of burying and repressing it.
If any of this describes you, then this course is for you.
In this course, you will finally get the insights, tools, and techniques that you need to meet this long-standing wound. This empowering course supports you in identifying precisely where the wound lives inside you, and to come to terms with how it impacts the many areas of your life. And, most importantly, to get to its roots and heal that which is ready to be healed. This supportive course meets you right where you live and walks beside you as you finally find your way to comfort and resolution. Our wounds themselves are not always a great gift, but the healing of them can often liberate and transform our consciousness in brilliant and beautiful ways. You will be free to live the confident and secure life that you were born to. Self-regard will become your natural and organic way of being, and you will become emblazoned on your path, living your life like the purposeful force of nature that you are. You will.
6 weekly talks and 52 pages of exercises, meditations, and supportive writings:
WEEK 1:The story of the abandonment wound; JAB (The Jealousy, Abandonment, Betrayal Trigger); The Healing Companion Visualization;
WEEK 2:Clarifying the ways the wound shows up: Personal Habits, Patterns, and Issues; Attachment theory and relationship styles;
WEEK 3:Where does the wound live in you?; Excavating emotional holdings and feelings: fear, grief, anger, shame, confusion;
WEEK 4:Roadmap to healing: Releasing, Expressing, Resolving the wound; Strengthening your self-love channel and building a healthier self-concept;
WEEK 5:Identifying your Family and Love Attachment Styles and their roots; Building your inner adult-inner child bridge; Re-parenting yourself;
WEEK 6:Techniques and Practices to bring into everyday life; The relationship between your life purpose and your wound; Building your Support Circle; Healing and Transformation Blueprint; Inspirational send-off.
A Word from Course Creator & Facilitator Jeff Brown
We live in a world that is dominated by an unresolved abandonment wound. It is the Mother (and Father) of all wounds, a super-wound with a great many tributaries and manifestations, so all-pervasive that it is often difficult to recognize in the midst of our overwhelming lives. It is a silent pandemic, a hidden nexus where all of our other wounds gather. As adults in this fast-paced society, we are expected to be highly functional and to hold it all together. The moment the abandonment wound raises its head, we push it back down. After all, we are supposed to be grown up now. Abandonment issues are for children. And yet, our tender woundedness continues to stir beneath the surface, and impacts many aspects of our lives.
That’s the thing about the abandonment wound. We can imagine it something very specific, a singular issue… in and of itself, but it is often so much more than that. It is often a self-perpetuating way of being, one that cuts so deep, and was felt so early in our lives, that it often influences every part of our lives: our thinking, our emotional body, our physical well-being, our notions of meaning and directionality, our relationship choices and behaviors, our sense of security in our own skin and in the world itself. In short, there is very little in our lives that cannot be impacted by an unresolved abandonment wound.
I had been wanting to write something that is focused on the healing of the abandonment wound for many years. It was impossible when I was first overwhelmed by the wound triggers as a young adult, both because it was all I could do to survive the feelings, and because I had no understanding of what on earth was happening inside of me. At that time, I had only questions, and no answers… What are these strange and uncomfortable feelings? Why am I feeling so flooded and overcome with pain? How have I carried this pain for so long, without knowing? Where are these primal triggers coming from? Why am I suddenly feeling so unsafe in the world? And, where do I find comfort and refuge?
It took me some years, before I finally went into therapy to fully confront and excavate this wound. And, despite my best efforts (and their best efforts), I had a very difficult time finding a therapist who knew how to work with it. They could acknowledge it, and analyze its roots, but very few knew how to get into the heart of the material, and work it through. It was almost as though this wound was too hot to touch. It was a hyper-trigger, a super-wound with a multitude of manifestations. It felt safer to try to contain and manage it, than to actually attempt to heal it within the body itself.
And so, through much trial and error, I developed my own healing system of tools and techniques. Both with respect to working with the wound directly, and also with respect to developing a series of practices that helped to strengthen my self-love muscle and bridge my inner adult with my inner child. This work was especially necessary, because my abandonment wound was intertwined with other immobilizing issues, particularly one I call the “JAB—the Jealousy, Abandonment and Betrayal” trigger triad. When the JAB trigger flared up, it was immobilizing, and nearly impossible to feel functional and safe in the world. If I wanted to remedy it, I had to approach it from every possible angle.
This course reflects the substantial toolbox of techniques and practices that I developed on my road to recovery. It was no easy feat, but I have been able to reach a place where the abandonment wound no longer subconsciously or consciously dominates my life. I have a much stronger sense of self, and I am capable of developing and sustaining healthy relationships in every part of my life. I feel enlivened, self-assured, and emblazoned with purpose. You can, too.
If I have a wish for you with respect to this course, it is that you arrive at the end of it feeling more deeply aware of where this wound lives inside of you, clearer on how it shows up and limits your possibilities, and that you are well on the path to healing it. If you can stay with the work for long enough, the voices of internalized shame and self-hatred will grow quieter, and a voice of self-love will rise up to occupy space inside of you. Your internal narrative will shift from one that is predicated on the fear of abandonment to one that is predicated on a sense of your own value. You will no longer make choices sourced in an over-compensatory quest for external validation. You will make choices that are rooted in a healthy self-love.
At no point in this course do I attempt to tell you how to feel, or to take over your process. Instead, I seek to provide tools, techniques, and insights that can support your own unique process. And to provide a safe container for your healing and transformation journey. Please join me.
A former criminal lawyer and psychotherapist, Jeff Brown is the author of 6 popular books: Soulshaping, Ascending with Both Feet on the Ground, Love It Forward, An Uncommon Bond, Spiritual Graffiti and Grounded Spirituality. He is also the producer and primary journeyer in the award-winning spiritual documentary, “Karmageddon”, which also stars Ram Dass, Seane Corn, Deva Premal and Miten. After writing a series of inspirations for ABC’S ‘Good Morning America’ in 2010, and appearing on Fox News.com and dozens of radio shows, Brown wrote the viral blog ‘Apologies to the Divine Feminine (from a warrior in transition)’ that autumn, catapulting him to a greater degree of notoriety, particularly in social media. Jeff’s new terms and short writings became a phenomenon some years ago, and continue to be shared by seekers and growers worldwide. His quotes have been shared in social media by Alanis Morrissette, Jason Silva, LeAnn Rimes, Chrissy Metz, and many other well-known figures. Most beautifully, they have touched and benefitted millions of souls. This gratifies him deeply. In April, 2018, Jeff was invited to Ottawa by Sophie Grégoire Trudeau–gender equality activist and the wife of Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau–to film a conversation about emotional healing and inclusivity. She had been sharing Jeff’s words in speeches and social media posts for some time. Excerpts from that powerful dialogue are viewable on Sophie’s Facebook and Instagram pages. Jeff is also the founder of Soulshaping Institute and Enrealment Press. He lives in Canada with his wife, poet Susan Frybort.
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